I’ve been doing a lot of reading about self-limiting beliefs. From speaking to other women about this topic, I’ve come to the conclusion that our self-limiting beliefs can be as dangerous as the negative comments from others. See, the problem is that there is a point in life when we believe what others say about us. Or it may be that negative feelings were ingrained in us as we were growing up and slowly, they became part of our reality. These self-limiting beliefs can be blunt but they can also be subtle; either way they undermine us and in fact, can be toxic.

Self-limiting beliefs come in all sizes and shapes. They ‘attack’ us a work, at home, at public functions, in the grocery store. Ultimately, self-limiting beliefs come through in our minds in unexpected ways, yet clearly manifesting insecurities, doubts, fears and ultimately impacting our ability to enjoy life, relationships and making us incapable of being all we can be. Examples may be: “I’m not good at that”, “I’ve never been able to…”, “I’m too old/young for that”, “I’m too fat/skinny”, “I’m not that smart…”

These thoughts/beliefs can creep up anywhere and there are two major reasons for you to nip them, right away:

a. They spread like wild fire, affecting every area of our life. Before we know it, our inner sense of wealth, health, relationships, life balance, etc. are skewed by the convincing nature of the belief.

b. Others are watching. Our loved ones are directly influenced by what we do and say…and what we don’t do or say. We are role models to others and when others see our lack of confidence or our limited vision in whatever area, they will follow on our same path hence self-limiting beliefs are contagious.

I love what Richard Bach said “Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can.” So let’s start nipping those thoughts by confronting them. Face the fear, the difficulty, the challenge; search within for the solution and once you catch yourself expressing one of those self-limiting beliefs, deny them. Correct yourself in the moment and tell yourself that you are now aware that you are different and that you can do whatever you put your mind and soul to.

My theory is that a powerful, fulfilling life starts with a great state of mind. Choose to be in the moment, present and enjoying every moment. Make a point to actually feel and experience your journey. Each experience has a message for you, make it your business to discover what that is. You can choose to have a positive attitude, one that reflects good health, prosperity, joy and balance. I truly believe that these shift will lead you to a life that you are creating for yourself and that you can be passionate about. Start today, start now.

© 2010 Maria Martinez

Maria Martinez is a Professional Life Coach; she works primarily with individuals seeking to identify areas in which they want to increase their level of awareness and take life to the next level. By providing support and accountability, individuals reach higher and greater goals; balance life at work and at home; and enjoy time doing things they most love. ‘Create the life you want; Start within.’

For more information about Maria Martinez and coaching services go to www.inneractivecoachingonline.com or via e-mail: inneractivecoaching@gmail.com